Caitlyn Jenner and What She’s Learned After Six Months of Being a Woman

I don't have a television (by choice, trust me) and so evidently I missed the 25th annual Glamour Magazine's Women of the Year awards. I learned about it from a Facebook friend's post this morning.

Honored were:

Worthy women for sure among a sea of other equally amazing women in the world.

Buzzfeed interviewed Caitlyn Jenner following the awards ceremony. And here are a few of the outtakes from that interview.

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Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images

Asked what Caitlyn's most proud moment of 2015 was and she responded:

Over the last six months it’s really been a progression. I have found that women have so much unleashed power that they don’t really utilize because they don’t have confidence in themselves about who they are, and what they can do. I have always actually been with and attracted to very strong women, and I think I’ve learned a lot from them. The power of the woman has just not even been unleashed around the world.

Well, apart from the fact that she didn't really answer the question, what does this mean? "The power of the woman has just not even been unleashed around the world."

Does she maybe mean our potential hasn't yet been realized and appreciated? I had to get my decoder ring to figure that one out.

When asked what the hardest part about being a woman is, Caitlyn replied:

The hardest part about being a woman is figuring out what to wear. It’s always that way; I never thought it would come to this. I had really no sense of style. Everyone around me in my family had the sense of style — I learned as much as I possibly could. But, it’s more than that. I’m kind of at this point in my life where I’m trying to figure this womanhood thing out. It is more than hair, makeup, clothes, all that kind of stuff. There’s an element here, that I’m still kind of searching for. And I think that’ll take a while. Because I think as far as gender, we’re all on a journey. We’re all learning and growing about ourselves. And I feel the same way.

Although I appreciate this is all new, exciting and maybe even a bit scary for her, really? What to wear?

Her remarks, while possibly meaning to be humorous and sarcastic, are objectifying to women and they paint us as self serving and self centered Barbie dolls ... like her step daughters.

Perhaps this is what happens when you become a woman in your 60s versus being one one's entire life. And before you think I am transgender bashing, I am not! I am extremely supportive of transgender people. I would go so far as to say I am an advocate for transgender people, as I am an advocate of all people, animals and most causes.

About the only observation I have about her becoming a woman in her 60s is that she missed out on the essence of being a woman, and it ain't always fun being one. I love being a woman and have never had penis envy or the desire to be a man. Well, maybe a few times when some chauvinist called me honey too many times, but no, I love being a woman.

Being a woman is multifaceted. We have a range of emotions, thoughts and experiences. And I am purposely not comparing us to men because there's no comparison. We are women and men are men. We have different bodies, we experience different things and like all the women I know, I don't measure my worth, value, intelligence and accomplishments against men and the benchmark they set.

Anyway, here are a few of the not-so-fun highlights of what Caitlyn missed while we are all being women our whole lives:

  • Puberty and that first period
  • Many periods
  • Cramps
  • Being passed over for promotions
  • Comparing our looks to other women. Like it or not, feminist as I am and most of my friends are, it happens.
  • Being called honey, doll face and bitch when we are just doing our jobs
  • Being harassed both on the street and in the workplace
  • The joys and pains of giving birth
  • Having to create a buddy system with girlfriends so we could drink in public without being raped
  • Being raped
  • Menopause
  • Being in an abusive relationship
  • Living down the embarrassment of being caught by surprise with our period two days early ... while wearing white
  • Being a woman and losing our mother
  • Staying up all night with a best friend after she loses her mother
  • Watching and supporting a best friend go through treatment for breast or cervical cancer
  • Being on the constant defense over our reproductive rights
  • Rescuing a best friend from an abusive relationship
  • Having to explain to a man why it's annoying to be told, "you're so cute, your husband better watch out!"
  • Having to explain why the clothes I wear aren't an excuse for a man to touch me or tell me I asked for it if I got raped
  • And elevendy million others

Caitlyn, I am all for you wanting to be a woman. I get it. Being a woman is awesome and I don't blame you, but do not trivialize our lives and our struggles down to makeup, hairstyle and what to wear. We get enough of that from men. We don't need it from a woman, regardless how long you've been a woman.